10 Ways To Fall In Love With Your Partner All Over Again
When the fire starts to fade and your relationship gets boring, try these 10 ways to fall back in love and feel excited again with your partner,
Deepen your connection
Get intimate. Touch each other in ways you haven't touched before. Say the words you've been meaning to say. Cuddle Make time to cuddle after the kids are asleep. This can be a fun way to connect when you feel like the relationship is on the rocks. Related: What Happened After I Divorced My Husband Give each other some space every once in a while. Don't plan a vacation without each other, and don't text for days. Make some conscious effort to separate for a while and get to know each other again. Befriend each other Engage in some new activities with each other, and find new things to do that you both enjoy. This can help you reconnect and rekindle the passion in the relationship. Plan a romantic evening Take the time to plan a romantic evening.
Share responsibility
I will admit that this is the easiest tactic to try. When you learn that something is important to your partner and they are willing to compromise, accept that for them and allow them to make the effort for you. I once had a partner that had a whole post about this and even gave the example of going out for dinner and having a burger when we knew I had a specific meal in mind that he wasn't comfortable eating, which allowed us to enjoy the same food. Not only was it more enjoyable for us as a couple, but it gave him a chance to see that I didn't expect him to suddenly compromise his food choices in order for me to eat a meal that I liked.
Be supportive
Communication between a couple is a central component of any relationship. The best way to feel safe and secure is to know that your partner is telling you everything that is happening in his/her life. He/she may also be getting involved in his/her family and friends' lives to stay connected and relevant. Your partner also may have his/her own life to live, but if he/she knows that you are interested in what he/she is doing, he/she will be more involved in your life. This builds trust and respect in the relationship. Get creative It's important that when you have time together, it's actually quality time, rather than time spent doing chores or going out to a movie. Spending time together doing something that you both enjoy is a great way to reconnect and get the fire started again.
Complete each other's sentences
Give your partner complete feedback about what's going on in your day and what you think. This will help you feel closer to them and build a sense of trust that's essential to a good relationship. Open up to them Instead of keeping something private, share your feelings openly. Be willing to be vulnerable and candid about your feelings and emotions with your partner. It'll make you both more secure and connected to one another. Share small things with your partner that don't take much effort These small gestures of kindness can really make a difference in a relationship, making both partners feel closer to one another and in love again.
Compliment each other
A lot of people can get boring when it comes to the relationship. So one great way to spice up the relationship is by complimenting each other. When you compliment your partner and tell him or her that you appreciate the things he or she does for you, the secret is in the word 'thank you.' The key is to try and always be nice to each other and leave the sour faces for other times. Don't tell your partner what to do Sometimes when you are mad at your partner, you find it hard to help or support them. This can be an even worse situation, if you tell your partner what to do, without even giving him or her a chance to defend themselves. So, avoid making this mistake and do not ask your partner to do anything that you don't also want to do yourself.
Try new things
Some people find that they don't feel passionate about their relationship anymore. I'm sure you've been there. The passion is gone for whatever reason, and there's nothing you can do to get it back. Since you're stuck in this rut, why not spend some quality time with your partner and try something new that you haven't done in a while? It doesn't matter if you go to a new city, take a trip to a new country or go for a camping trip. Just something new. Sights and sounds are so much better when you do it with someone you're in love with. When you're seeing each other often, your minds might tend to wander to thoughts about the future or what you're going to do the next time you're together. Instead, try to create memories, and make time to do the things you enjoy doing together now.
Create a romantic space
This one is super important, as often couples fail to create the space for romance in their relationship. Especially in a day and age when we all want to be productive and not take time out for 'nookie'. Create a romantic space where you can be free to explore yourself and your feelings. Spend time there having sex, reading and watching movies, or have a bath and light candles. Keep taking your partner for a drink Having a drink after work is a great way to keep the spark alive in your relationship. Not only does it keep the intimacy going in the relationship but also with yourself, you are on the same page and the conversations you have are ones you actually want to have.
Do something together that's outside your comfort zone
When you find yourself bored and uninterested in the relationship, you tend to take one of two extreme routes. You either take out your anger on your partner by causing fights or you do nothing. In the first option, you ruin a once wonderful relationship by acting out. Or, if you stay calm, you've already lost them because they're not giving you any attention, affection, or the spark that you once had. This is where the second option comes in. The second route is to take the opposite approach and give them the attention that they're craving from you. Yes, this is only one strategy in the four ways to fall back in love, but it's still an option. By giving your partner more attention and affection, they'll likely return the favor and start feeling the love again.
Date night
Plan a date night at least once a week. If you both can't take the time then maybe at the weekend. Plan a romantic evening at a nice restaurant, a nice walk by a lake or a trip to a museum. If your partner has a really active job, maybe try a food or a class he or she enjoys such as archery. Make it an evening you'll always look back on and remember the love and chemistry you had with your partner. Watch a love story Watch the perfect movie with your partner and both admire each other's character and listen to the little clues the movie gives you. Try and find something that will create a fantasy for both of you and get you thinking about your future together. Book a holiday Even if you are on a tight budget, arrange a mini-break somewhere like the Maldives or Barbados.
Keep it sexy
What does sexy mean to you? Tell him or her what it means to you. Take a few sexy shots or spend some time making sexy videos and images. Remember, your partner likes it when you're sensual. Keep surprising each other Always try and do something crazy for each other. Plan something that you both have never done before, don't be boring and mundane. Leave no room for ego When you start arguing, give up the blame game and treat your partner with kindness. Keep communicating Keep talking and express your concerns without getting defensive. It's the only way that your partner would feel understood. Take spontaneous trips If you like to travel a lot, take a quick weekend trip just to remind yourself that there is always more to the world and beautiful places that you haven't yet seen.
