The 2 Things That Are Harmful To A Relationship
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The 2 Things That Are Harmful To A Relationship
We all know that having a good relationship can be hard work, but according to psychologist and relationship expert Nikki Martinez, a good relationship is well worth the effort. In a recent Psychology Today article, Martinez discussed the two things that most likely aren't, well, good for a relationship and what you should do about it. She says, "relationships don't go bad because of external factors. They go bad because of internal factors." For Martinez, these internal factors are broken connection, hidden hurts, and the desire to control. 1. The first thing you need to know about a toxic relationship is that your partner doesn't value you. Martinez writes that "being with someone who cares for you will not lessen the amount of care you have for yourself.
How to Recognize a Toxic Relationship
If you suspect that a relationship is toxic, experts suggest you first ask yourself if you're in it to get something from the other person. You might start out because of someone else — maybe you just want someone to hang out with or date," psychotherapist and couples therapist Ann Brodsky tells Bustle. You may find yourself in a relationship because you care for your partner but not in a way that's reciprocal. According to experts, this is a sign that the relationship is toxic, so try to figure out why it's toxic first. Here are the two main reasons why people stay in toxic relationships, according to experts. 1.
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Signs that a Relationship Is Toxic
No communication You do not get to talk to your partner about how you are feeling or what you want to do. If you are unable to talk about how you feel, ask the other person for advice and if they don't know how to help, then leave them. Constantly fighting You cannot have a healthy relationship if you constantly fight, and both of you are always blaming each other. Be mature enough to address the issues in the relationship, and resolve to work it out before breaking up. This is one of the most common signs in a relationship, yet we are still putting up with it because we feel the relationship is 'right.' Compatibility is not important to the couple To make a relationship work, it has to be a couple you can stand.
How to Deal With Unhealthy Behavior in Relationships
But it's not all hopeless, you just need to take action to break the patterns. Break Up Or Stay Together? A Primer On What Every Couple Must Know About Co-Dependency Your partner isn't dependent on you. They do not love you in spite of everything you're doing wrong. 9 Signs Your Partner Isn't Committed Your partner's actions can tell you a lot about what's going on in the relationship, but you don't have to act on it. 7 Things Toxic People Do When They Want To Win You Over They'll tell you that you're wonderful and that they wish you could be with them. 7 Things Toxic People Do When They Want To Win Over A Friend They'll badmouth you in front of your other friends. 7 Signs That You're A Toxic Friend They'll sabotage your relationships with your other friends.
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Conclusion
There's no excuse for toxic behaviors. If you notice any of these behaviors, whether in yourself or in your partner, it's best to get yourself or your partner help ASAP. Remember that it's not always about you, so take a step back and determine the overall health of the relationship before making any life-altering decisions. Use these techniques to spot and address toxic behaviors, so your and your relationship can thrive.
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